Happiness is a state of being, created while working towards the goal, not a feeling to be experienced after achieving the goal.
If we believe that happiness is after achieving, then we create stress, anger and fear while achieving, and thus do not experience happiness.
Before I take the responsibility of those around me, I need to take responsibility of my own thinking and feelings.
When I am happy and take care of others, then they will be happy.
~ feel the reality, feel the happiness